Alex Vaughn - So Be It (Video)
The sophomore release & follow up to this evocative R&B songstress’s 2018 debut “The Shift” is finally here, 4 years in the making & it’s a solid second effort from her. 8 records expressing the pain she’s felt over that period of time but here we are covering the visual treatment for the album’s opener with “So Be It”. On this fervourous tune, we find her coming to terms with what the relationship is & isn’t. She don’t got time to mollycoddle anybody when they can’t even make up their feelings about her. Even though she knows it’s for the better that they are no longer seeing each other, she can’t front like she don’t miss what she grew so accustomed to. That my friends, is what we call the trauma bond. We see her riding around town with her girls, seemingly hoping to just forget about this person but even still, they are left looming above her, the thought of what could still possibly be impeding upon her good time.
It’s always difficult adjusting to life after a breakup, especially with somebody you were considering to be your life partner. Watching them change into someone completely different than the person you initially met or perhaps, this is who they were all along until they finally decided to let the facade fizzle away after they realized they had you hooked. If that’s who you are & if that’s how you wanna play it though then so be it, she’d much rather go through the discomfort of moving on then to stick around for the abuse, physical or emotional, emotional more so in this case, which is as bad if not worse than physical cause these scars will forever be embedded into your heart, mind & soul, at least with bruises, you can see them heal but internally is a whole other beast.
She tried everything she could to reassure this person that her love for them was genuine but unfortunately, they’ll probably only realize that until way after the fact, until it’s too late & she’s already gone, that’s just how these things tend to play out in some cases. She never saw any of it coming, completely blindsided but still, she musters up the courage to bounce back gracefully, regardless of the tedious process of getting back to one self. Are we still fixing our mouths to say that R&B is dead cause I don’t believe so when you witness souls like Alex come into the fold & completely dismantle all those toxic tropes plaguing the modernist R&B world. If you haven’t yet, peep her “Hurtbook” album for more entries as such. It’ll make you think twice about entertaining all that toxicity.